If you complain about what has happened to you every day, it is only because that precious person inside you wants you to listen to them and allow them to heal. This happens to you because she knows that you need to forgive yourself to move on and understand that, despite all the circumstances, you were trying to do your best in that moment, you had a good intention and you did but also its value.
But the fact is that with this burden on your heart you cannot besiege your conscience for too long, because it is simply not good for you and, moreover, you do not deserve it: Remind yourself again that the consequences of an action must appear, But you don’t have to be burdensome forever.
You have suffered enough already and even if you did not aim for it, you also had to take criticism, maybe it was a bit shameful and even morally reprehensible how something turned out. Nonetheless, these are things that have to happen: when we make decisions we run the risk of being wrong, and not even our greatest goodwill precludes the possibility of making a mistake.
“I just wanted …”
The action determined by a kind soul is unfortunately underestimated and there are people who use the so-called “good intention” as a protective shield to hide their cowardice behind it or to come up with excuses to get away. Yet there are also people who are not like that and feel really bad because what happened is not what they hoped for, because it was their intention to do their best.
This means that you have now come to a point where you keep complaining about how things have developed and sentences like “I just wanted to …” or ” That was not my intention” are the product of yours Feelings of guilt that have haunted you ever since. These two sentences symbolize the feeling of frustration in someone who has tried to let his heart speak for himself and has nevertheless caused broken pieces with his actions.
“I am like everyone else: weak, able to step into any faux pas, but basically a good person.”
You feel this pressure on your heart and you feel remorse, it is of no use to you that the person concerned has already forgiven you and you no longer mind the situation, but your morals do. It doesn’t help you to think that you just wanted to do your best and you would like to go back in time to do it differently. However, the solution is different.
Dare to forgive yourself
If you want to find a way out of your situation, you can only do it if you forgive yourself. If you are convinced that you no longer want to feel bad about yourself, you need to dare to take this step. The only thing you will achieve is that the storm will disappear from your head and you can finally draw a line.
It is good for you when you no longer complain about what you can no longer change and what is a thing of the past. Because it is like this: In your good intentions there is also the possibility hidden to start from the beginning, to understand that no one is perfect, not even you, even if you may not like that.
“Forgiveness is the virtue of the brave.”
Having made a mistake does not make you a bad person, nor does he have to become your inner judge over your entire emotional world. Have trust in yourself, value yourself and remember that there will be even more situations that show you that you don’t always lose, but sometimes you also win. Never forget: mistakes don’t define you, but they help you become who you are.
Your good intention should be your gift to others every day
Finally, I would like to tell you why I am of the opinion that you have to free your conscience from what was and what harms you: simply because I believe that we in the world need people who differ from you be guided by humble and kind hearts, even if the results are not always what we want them to be.
We need to give our loved ones the best of ourselves every day, shake hands with them when they need us, and give them advice when they want to hear one of us. What if we’re wrong? In this case we should be able to forgive ourselves and find inner peace again after we have borne the consequences for our actions.
“Love and goodwill are invaluable in human matters.”
Indeed, many times it seems that what is really important is not intent, but what you do because we know for sure that it is real. But every now and then we forget that good intentions can move mountains and, without them, not even a single stone of the mountain would move. Therefore, you should no longer punish yourself and give yourself another chance, because a situation doesn’t always have to end badly.