With us, an emotional house is born within us. A place where our basic emotions reside, which are essential for our survival: fear, anger, sadness, joy and disgust. Every house needs to be looked after and ventilated, and our emotional home also needs to have open doors and windows to let air in. It has to be receptive, because more than just the basic feelings go in and out of it and teach us something.
“Knowing others is the epitome of wisdom. Knowing yourself is the epitome of enlightenment. “
But what happens when one of these feelings no longer disappears, has made itself comfortable in our emotional house and no longer wants to leave? If any feeling persists, it is most likely because we are not letting it go. It blocks us, throws us off balance, makes us unhappy and it puts our emotional health at risk.
“Anyone who is emotionally blocked cannot learn. It is therefore necessary to deal with one’s own feelings, to have good self-esteem and good social relationships. “
Feelings that come in and out of your emotional home
At this point in your life , you are responsible for what is going on in your emotional home. It is important that you know the feelings that reside in them; know what feelings come and go; how they relate to each other and how they move you to act. The nature of the feelings that enter your emotional home determine those that arise in you and that determine how you behave.
Feelings naturally flow. You feel them, identify them, accept them and allow them to disappear again. Regardless of whether they are nice or unpleasant feelings, as soon as you feel them, you have to let them go again.
Ventilate our emotional home
Ventilating the spaces of our emotional home also means letting go of a feeling that is trapped or trapped. For example, if you don’t allow yourself to feel anger and lock it inside you, it will only get bigger. An anger that turns into anger, resentment, or hatred if you don’t deal with it. If you lock unsightly feelings like envy, resentment or jealousy in a room, sooner or later they will harm you and those around you, because at some point they will come out and affect you negatively.
Opening the windows to let in new feelings is also part of the dynamic course of life. If you do not allow yourself to enjoy something or feel love because you are still tied to an old pain, you are denying access to feelings that are more useful for the moment of the present than indulging in the past.
You can’t run away from feeling emotions. Even if they are uncomfortable feelings for you, they are important and necessary so that you can learn something from a situation. Thanks to them, you can rearrange your life.
Every feeling shows us something and serves our emotional orientation. Emotions teach us about how we connect with ourselves, with others, and with our plans in life. When we locate them, we name them, we accept them and let them go, over time we understand them and learn to deal with them appropriately. So not a single one of these feelings blocks us.
If you deal with them intelligently, they will be pleasant. If you work against life, they are uncomfortable and cause you suffering.
- The feeling of disappointment describes the knowledge that something we believed in is not the truth. And it shows you that not everything will come out as you thought or wished, without necessarily taking away your lust for life. It helps you learn something.
- Intense or permanent envy or jealousy make our social relationships difficult. They can be appropriate feelings, but are no longer once they cause us to no longer be happy for others.
- Sadness shows you that you are suffering from a painful loss that you must deal with. You have to be aware of this and learn to live with it in some way.
- Anger tells you that something or someone is an obstacle to overcome.
- Disgust or aversion makes it clear to you that you should refrain from doing something that is unhealthy for you.
- Fear makes you aware of danger and moves you to protect or defend yourself.
- Joy makes you repeat a pleasant situation.
So we can say that every single feeling tells us about something, makes us feel in a certain way, and we have to learn to deal with it.
Gratitude describes the ability to see a gift in everyday life: in a friend’s smile, in a song, in a meal, etc.
It is the way we deal with our feelings that transforms them into something positive or negative for us. We can definitely say that any feeling is useful, even if some are more pleasant than others. Both unsightly and beautiful feelings do us better or harm us less if we share them. A good support from the social environment helps us to relativize unpleasant feelings and to share joyful ones and to infect others with our happiness.
If you feel that you are stuck in an emotional state, have been sad or angry for too long, or if you think that your social relationships are unsatisfactory because you cannot enjoy them, now is the right time to start dealing with them to improve with your feelings. You may find it difficult to express your feelings and to limit what aroused your emotional state. But if you don’t, it’s up to you to properly confront your feelings so that your heart can be that emotional house that feelings can enter and leave when the time comes.
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