Holding onto things can be very dangerous and harmful. Clinging to the security of what you know or what you are used to is relatively easy. The problem is that holding onto something or someone and viewing it as a necessity can have dire consequences.
Being clingy and surrounding yourself with supposed things and beliefs that dictate what you need to be happy only feeds your ego. You enslave your well-being in this way. Nothing outside, not even a person, can bring you true happiness.
Likewise , it is not good to live in the past. Perhaps nostalgia can inspire and improve you, but reliving memories still means holding onto things. You can’t see or touch it, but it exists in your head and it’s dangerous to hold onto an idea. Therefore, holding on to things hurts more than letting go. Take some time to think about it.
Creating false needs
Whatever it is, give yourself a moment to really think about it. Do you really need all of this to be happy? What more do you want The things, the dreams, the person or the feeling of having them?
Often, and without your realizing it, you make a list of things related to your concept of happiness. You have expectations of your ideal world that you may think are real business. The problem arises when you internalize this so much that you actually end up believing it.
“If I get a job, I live alone.”, “When I live alone, I do what I really want to do.”, “All the work and effort will pay off and I will make my dreams come true”, “I will find a partner and build a home together and I will be happy “… These are just a few examples.
This is how what was once a fantasy becomes a reality that you want to achieve. You have tried so hard that if it doesn’t happen, everything will collapse. Maybe things don’t happen exactly the way you’d like them to. You will start feeling sick, but you will continue to crave the ideal of happiness that you have created in your head.
Now you are faced not only with your thoughts that say you are not valid, but also emotions such as anger, anger, disappointment, frustration, bitterness, etc. You have unwittingly and unwillingly set your own trap by looking at a number of holding on to wrong needs.
Holding on to things can lead to suffering
It is wrong to tailor your wellbeing to things, dreams, and people. Nobody taught you not to fall for it. Because unfortunately the opposite is the case. You are likely to be bombarded with ads showing you how you can and should be happy. Just check out today’s social media.
Holding onto something or someone and clinging to an idea of how things should be is dangerous. Why? Because nothing lasts forever. Because inflexibility can leave you feeling stuck, worn out, and enslaved. Everyone changes. And you are not the same person you were seven years ago. I am sure that you have changed over time. If you ignore change and hold on to things, ideas, and people, it will only make you unhappy.
That doesn’t mean you should tiptoe through life. However, it also doesn’t mean that you stop taking care of anything and everything. Instead, just pay attention to how you relate to others and what things are around you. Also, notice how you feel about these things. This way you can tell when you are making someone or something a wrong need.
Let go for more!
Let go and say goodbye. There are many ways to practice distance. This is something that will free you from those false needs and break the molds that you have created to be truly happy.
Letting go involves a process of growth and change that only happens when you learn that nothing lasts forever and everything changes. It’s about respecting the course of life and understanding that some things are not meant to be.
Letting go also means knowing that thoughts can change and that something that is valuable today may no longer have any value tomorrow. Cultivate and train your mind to face these changes. Prepare your heart to let go of those who can no longer be with you and let go of your attachment to objects or situations.
This does not mean that they are no longer important to you, but that you don’t need most of these things to be happy. However, this can be difficult to understand at first.
Detaching yourself from things is a way to find personal equilibrium in order to be completely free of egoism. This is how you can work on yourself to really get to know yourself. It is an act of courage that will allow you to break the barriers in your comfort zone and no longer be afraid of losing what you hold onto.
Letting go means accepting loss as an essential part of your life, practicing acceptance, and cultivating a flexible mind and an honest heart. Life is about change, but also about movement. Do not forget that!