We all know these people who constantly think negatively and always look at things from the bad side. You don’t really know why, but every time you are around that person, you find that your emotions also turn dark. Sometimes you even feel the urge to run away. Most of the time, however, these people do not even notice what they are doing to the people around them with their negativity.
In general, they are not bad people, but still the way they see the world brings a lot of suffering. Because thinking negatively is contagious. In the long term, those affected can only get others to stay away from them. Nobody wants to be reminded of the bad things in the world all the time. We all know that there is no such thing as the perfect life. We all orient ourselves by what we consider perfect for us. People who constantly think negatively cannot see the sun behind the clouds. At the same time, they concentrate on the only cloud in the clear blue sky.
We cannot help these people much if they do not try to change their perspective on their own. And if we want to support them in this, then we have to motivate them. Then you can decide for yourself to take the first step and really make a difference. We should never forget that the real victim of a negatively thinking person is that person himself.
5 characteristics of people who constantly think negatively
You worry about everything
People who think chronically negatively turn mosquitoes into elephants. A fallen plate causes great drama. A few hours later there is the next drama for the next little thing. Instead of enjoying their everyday life, they constantly worry about the future. And that only makes them more negative.
You cannot judge how much attention which things deserve. They tend to overdo it, which makes them pretty implausible. We all know the fairy tale Peter and the Wolf and the consequences of such behavior.
They ignore the good
It doesn’t matter if they had a great day at work, just received a gift or heard great news. They only focus on the uncomfortable things in their life. They are perfectly capable of consistently ignoring the good in their life.
By ignoring the positive things, they are completely unaware of their existence. And when you think about a problem, you only come up with solutions that match your negative mindset. They learn from this that they are unhappy and worthless. They don’t seem to care about their own happiness. It’s just about staying in the endless, negative loop that they created with their thoughts.
You can’t accept compliments
If you praise them or compliment them, they react defensively. Your self-esteem is influenced by negative thinking in such a way that every compliment, no matter how dearly meant, is interpreted as an attack: You are firmly convinced that others laugh at you, even though they really only want to be nice. They are unable to accept that they are valuable themselves. Self-worth is incomprehensible to them.
“Even your worst enemy cannot hurt you as much as your own thoughts.”
They can only talk about their own problems. There is little room in their head for other people’s problems. They love to keep talking about their bad life. At the same time, they don’t care how others feel. They are bad listeners and very self-centered. Their own problems are still a tad worse than those of their fellow human beings. They rarely share their monologue with others, and when they do it is only to express the opposite opinion.
This lack of empathy often leads to arguments with others, especially when boundaries are crossed. Of course, the constant need to let off steam burdens them – but it burdens others too.
You seldom take risks
Too often they think about how others might see them. Any derogatory comment hits them and causes concern. What they think of themselves depends on what other people think. This lack of objectivity makes them very insecure and needy. They are afraid of the intentions of their fellow human beings, so that they come up with their own mental cinema for their actions.
Sure, we all do that. But negative people add special effects to the film. In their head cinema, they are always victims. As a result, they tend to have to constantly protect themselves and take few risks. In their imagination, they have already taken on many risks in the past or simply too many open construction sites.
You can be paranoid
People who constantly think negatively are prone to paranoia. A sudden laugh or a furtive look and they immediately think they’re being talked about. That makes them very insecure around others. You feel the urge to leave quickly.
Their behavior can be very difficult to deal with. Sometimes it doesn’t work at all. You have to be patient and try to really understand why they are doing this. In most cases, their behavior results from a series of bad experiences. These experiences were never properly processed. But it’s never too late in life to learn that not everything is black or white. We live in shades of gray. There will always be good days and bad days. Not every experience is negative.
There are a thousand reasons to be grateful. Ignoring these reasons only makes us ungrateful and worsens our quality of life.