Many of us strive to be a better version of ourselves. Therefore, we try very specifically to take the right path in life. The most effective tool we have for measuring our efforts is our ability to analyze ourselves.
It is of course admirable to want to make the best of yourself. For this reason, however, we often look at the negative in ourselves, because we don’t want to make the same mistakes over and over again. But even if self-analysis can be very useful in correcting your own behavior and discarding weaknesses and bad habits, it can also easily lead to us underestimating ourselves. It is not uncommon for us to see ourselves too critically.
In the long run, being too self-critical can be detrimental to our successes and mental health. If we are too self-critical, we damage our self-confidence and our self-confidence. In fact, there is a close relationship between self-criticism, low self-esteem, and perfectionism.
Are you too critical of yourself?
It can become a real problem when we sort of put our self-criticism on autopilot. It is imperative that we become aware of the damage we can cause. You can use the following list to determine whether you are too self-critical. If you are finding a great match with your daily behavior, then it is time to draw a line and take better care of your mental health.
- Nothing is good enough for you, not even yourself. You constantly feel like you are not doing your job well. You are of the opinion that everything will turn out as it should. Nothing around you can live up to your expectations, including you.
- No one is to blame for negative events but you. When something bad happens, you feel personally responsible for it. You take responsibility immediately, without even considering other factors. You don’t think that something might be out of your control.
- You are disappointed in yourself even after you have identified and solved a specific problem. After a mistake, you feel like a failure.
- You sink into guilt for constantly analyzing your mistakes. You spend a lot of time analyzing what went wrong and why you are responsible for it. But in the end you will not reach a result that would allow you to look at the past with optimism. You think too much about your guilt and what’s wrong with you and what you haven’t done instead of what you could do better next time.
- Risks are not an option. You are not taking any risks because you are sure that you would fail. In your imagination it would certainly go wrong if you dared to do something. You are convinced that doing nothing at all would be best for you.
- You avoid speaking your mind. For fear of saying something stupid or inappropriate, you’d rather say nothing at all. Often times you think that you have nothing interesting to say. You find your views boring or undesirable.
- You are never satisfied no matter what you have achieved. You are constantly finding mistakes in your work. If you can’t do something perfectly, you’d better not do it at all. Even if the result is good, you focus on inevitable imperfections.
- Every situation becomes the worst case scenario, the worst case scenario. When you think about the future, your thoughts may start with the words “What if …” . You look at all possible actions through the lens of possible mistakes. You fear humiliation and mistakes guide you more than successes and gains.
- You have a problem with your self-image. Maybe you have complexes that you just can’t break away from. You believe that your bad qualities demeanor your worth and reputation for others. Your self-image can block your professional and social advancement or it is already blocking it.
- Every criticism puts you on the defensive. You are bothered by constructive or justified criticism. Your reactions are excessive and you take everything others say personally.
Avoid self-sabotage through self-criticism
Intense and persistent self-criticism is a form of self-sabotage. If we criticize ourselves, we are doing exactly the opposite of what is healthy for us. But why do we even do it? It’s just part of our psychology where we’re used to bearing the burden of rejection, fear, and oppression.
In this way , negativity becomes a trap from which it is difficult to break free. We put ourselves in chains, as it were, as it sounds familiar, and we take responsibility for it. We automatically look for the negative, because without it we somehow feel naked.
If you want to put an end to self-criticism and self-sabotage, you need to get to know yourself better. You also have to be aware of your inner dialogue.